Criteria to Build ...
. . . healthy relationships
Who plays on your landscape and does it matter?
You have chosen values and qualities you are committed to bring to your Relationship Landscape. Additionally, you have determined qualities for the culture in which those relationships function. The next question is, "Who is in Your Landscape?"
Often we think of male/female,Soul mate, happy ever after partner when the word Relationship is used. However, a healthy and balanced life requires a landscape with a variety of people in your circle. Some are at the edge, some are a few steps in while a few interact with us in the center.
The cashier that you see a your grocery store would be at the edge of your Landscape. Your movie buddy would be several steps in. The friend that is always there for you is close to the center. And of course, the one which whom you are in committed partnership is at the center.
Rosan says it well in her 1 8minute TED Talk, Building Connections: How to Be A Relationship Ninja.
Another question comes up in our interactions with others. "How can I trust him/her?" Or, "Will it be safe to open myself to him/her?"
We have the question backward. The question ought to be, "Can I trust myself to follow my intuition as I open myself to this person?"
What? Trust yourself rather than trust the other person?
You are the one who has determined how you will act, what character qualities you want to interact with and the culture, energy environment, in which you will relate. You are the one to discern the alignment.
For several years I taught at Apple Preschool, an amazing school. During the year, Teresa, the owner, would bring out an empty jar and a box full of colorful pom-poms. For one week, the goal was to notice when a student was kind to another and tell about that kindness at circle time. For each notice, a pom-pom was put into the jar. When the jar was full, a class party celebrated the kind actions in our school community. The kids loved it!
Now, you and relationships. How about beginning with an "empty jar". The goal is to add a pom-pom, some use marbles, as the measurement, every time you notice YOURSELF take action on an intuitive feeling. The feeling might be that something is "off", not comfortable or constricting with another person. Or the feeling might say, "I like how this person treats others." When you act to move a person toward the edge or initiate actions to move a person closer to the center, you put a pom-pom or marble in your jar.
Develop your muscle of discernment. Your action might be to spend less time with someone who leaves you drained. It might be to spend more time with another who leaves you laughing or inspired. The action might be to move a person off of your Landscape. Your intuition might lead to a friend who loves movies as much as you do and regular movie nights.
Trusting your own sense of what is right for you is what keeps you safe in relationships, not trusting the other person to be that guide.
Draw a circle and put your current relationships on the Landscape as they are. Sit back and consider, "Does this Landscape match what I have chosen?"
Now, the next step, bringing the Current Landscape into alignment to your Chosen Landscape is up to you. Rearrange the Relationships to match your criteria and intuition.
You may need support as you bring that shift into your world.
Many blessings with this task
What Is Yours?
What is Yours and What is NOT?
The Iroquois Nation believe profoundly in the inter-connectedness of everything. Therein could be found a universal truth for being in any situation. The Great Peacemaker who came among the original 5 tribes taught that the only way to live in peaceful relationships was to live in Good Mind. In the Iroquois Nation, experiencing and creating from specific qualities is called "being in Good Mind".
Key is to choose the qualities, the "ground" upon which you stand and build. That is what you did in our last lesson. You determine the qualities, values that will underpin the culture that is "your space" and therefore, "your Relationship Landscape."
This stand necessitates that YOU are responsible for monitoring your own energy space.YOU are the one who commits to remain congruent to Your Good Mind. Those qualities might be Generous, Caring, Calm, Valuing of all in the Web of Life, Inclusion, etc.
Any relationship, especially a long-term relationship, will trigger old patterns, wounds, and judgments. When you are "triggered", you will be "out of Good Mind." It is easy to blame the 'other' for your pain. If only s/he were more stable, kind, aware, then I would be feeling fine. You know that story?
In Good Mind, it is YOUR responsibility to notice when you are not in Good Mind, when you are triggered. Then, it is YOUR responsibility to withdraw from the situation and use your tools and support to return to Good Mind.
The Law of Manifestation says that if a disruptive energy appears in your life, it is because you carry a seed for that disruption in your energy fields, conscious or unconscious. In other words, if it is in your field of awareness, the seed is in field and is YOURS to transform.
Here is how the Skaroreth Katenuaka Nation is living within Good Mind for their people.
Do you see any similarities between the Skaroreth Katenuada Nation and the leadership of the U.S.A.?
The Journey Continues. What do you choose to build from? What processees and supports will you use when you find yourself triggered and out of "Good Mind"?
What is Your Landscape Soil?
Evaluating the landscape in which you are trying to grow relationships is important.
The energy landscape is like the air we all breathe, the water in which we all swim. Over generations, the energy "air and water" has become contaminated with the vibrations of occupation, domination, control, abuse and usury. This energy contamination manifests in our world as toxic water, air, food, systems of greed, cultures of domination and abusive, imbalanced relationships.
To move out of the generation old contamination, you first acknowledge that this toxic energy environment has impacted and shaped you. You are living from a box shaped from the reactions to experiences in the past. The stories that you and your ancestors created into order to made sense of domination, or to survive torture have become the seeds from which your box manifested. In this lesson, you take back your authority to design the environment for your relationships. Also, to initiate requirements, set boundaries, and build with those who meet the criteria.
Always, create Reality Statements. You might want to let the words below trigger the old completions, write them down and burn them as a release.
Then, complete the Statements using what you are now choosing.
This video with Brene' Brown have lots of ideas to consider including vulnerability. BRENE'
Much love with this assignment.
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The Journey Continues
By now, you know that if you are unhappy with some of your qualities and traits, you need to address them head-on. In previous emails, you were encouraged to design and declare the New You with the Reality Shift process. That done, have you created a daily practice to build the energy "fire" for the new to manifest?
Better relationships are not about fixing others or suppressing emotions, thoughts or actions from old patterns. Better relationships begin in the center of your Relationship Landscape with YOU.
As YOU reframe the way you see yourself, life, and others, watch as new responses emerge from this inner reframe. Those new responses are indications that healing/transformation is occurring.
Along the way, fill your toolbox with guidance, information, professionals, and processes that can transform the old and strengthen the new.
There are often unseen causes that are difficult to address. That is when eyes of those in the Spiritual worlds are valuable.
Do you wonder:
~ What powerful Aspect is blocking or sabotaging your
~ Why you prefer or remain alone?
~ Why a specific person is in your life?
These are common question. So, The TAG* team and I have created an offer that can bring the hidden to light.
Here is the LINK for more information.
Follow the directives, including a Reality Statement indicating the outcome you are holding. Send in your Request. Then, I will ask the Sananda and the TAG* team your question, do the inner healing work they direct. I will send you the story.
In addition, there will be ways for you to claim and anchor the new.
Sometimes you may have forgotten that there are Beings of Integrity, Love, and Intelligence waiting to assist you. They need your request, however.
Here is a WAY to reach out.
Build the Fire
What do you bring?
What do you want to bring to your relationships?
Many people wonder who and where their tribe is or what their purpose is. They sit, they ponder and question why they are even here on this Earth. That is like putting the horse before the cart. First, it is vital for you to recognize the person you are now, consider your commitment to transformation, and then choose the type of person you want to be. You are already ahead of the game by using the last article to define "you".
If you want to expand your relationship landscape ask yourself: "Am I ready to:
1. acknowledge that you do not have all of the answers
2. to make mistakes as you try on new skills and ideas
3. match your time investments to your declared values
Only you can determine the person you want to be, and what behaviors and attitudes you choose to exhibit. Once you have done that, create a daily protocol from your toolbox to build the energy to manifest the New YOU.
This VIDEO As you expand the energy of the new YOU.
Another measure of congruency between your choice and your unconscious is to evaluate your use of time. What does it say is important to you? You may want to use your time in more productive ways. There are several models to use and HERE IS ONE ARTICLE to get you started.
Anytime that you choose a new outcome, the old patterns will come up to be transformed. The unconscious option is to be carried to the same old outcome.
In your next email, there will be a new idea and offer.
Watch for it.
The First Critical Piece
Have you sketched out your Relationship Landscape?
Today, you are going to assume that most crucial aspect of your Landscape is at the center, YOU. Have you stopped to consider that the YOU in the story of your life have many faces? You, are like a patchwork quilt with multiple aspects of YOU.
Which I is the Real I?
The questions for you:
Not only are you seen differently, but you also have "parts" of yourself that surface at various moments. One of them may have the personality traits of a three-year-old who was "lost" in the grocery store. Or, you may have been surprised a "you" with the skill set of a frightened teenager going to a new school, again. Stored memories and emotions are triggered in situations, and a "you" emerges from them. We also wear hats depending on who we are with or the position we hold in a specific group.
The present moment is the place to design YOU, using the Reality Shift Process.
Complete these Statements and imagine how they become you;
Relationships are the basis of life.
The relationship between the sun and earth, the relationship between trees and air, the relationship between personal and political are examples.
What Does that Mean to YOU?
Then, during the two weeks you will receive evaluations, ideas, processes along and experts insights, all designed to bring vitality into your Relationship Landscape.
A world built on Respectful, Generous, Mature Relationships…
How Would That Look?
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